[turtleyacht]

Do your own thing. Attention is a resource, and people love listeners. You're a "slot" in their social circle for something, but it's a mystery. I don't think it's worth figuring out.

If someone is genuinely interested in what you have to say, they will actively seek and ask, right? They would include you in the conversation.

Sorry if it's not much help. Trust your intuition, and forgive yourself. Time sorts things out.