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ADHD is a very vague diagnosis, worth it mostly to get access to medications and extra support in school, if the parents want to pursue those paths.

I would encourage the parents or some close relative to read the diagnosis in detail and explore what that means for his life. Especially study scoring related to working memory, the ability to focus, ability to communicate, and indicative IQ. He doesn't have to be good at math. Plenty of people aren't. There are lots of hobbies, lifestyles and career paths that suit people with various "disorders" and variations.

My daughter has obvious problems related to ADD, and while we haven't really solved anything yet, the most important step for me so far has been to set expectations for us as parents. I no longer care what grades she gets in classes that bore her too much, or that are based on facts she can't seem to remember. I focus more on her well-being, on improving her learning skills, and on encouraging activities for her to excel in. She has some very strong qualities, and I much prefer if she pursues them rather than setting her up to fail consistently in something she's not naturally suited for.