[justinclift]

Not everyone is like that, though some certainly are.

I've personally lent money to friends when they needed it, and been paid back once they got stuff sorted out.

Though in my younger days I was far less careful, so lending money did indeed go poorly.

[bawolff]

I think the main issue, is that most people are reluctant to ask a friend for a loan because its considered in poor taste. If they are asking they either have no qalms about asking which is a red flag, or they are super desperate which probably means its unlikely they would have the ability to pay back.

[llamaimperative]

Of course not everyone is like that. The issue is you don’t know who is ex ante, and often people aren’t that way ex ante, but one thing leads to another to a total breakdown in trust and respect.

Even in the case you describe, it’s much better to gift it: “if you want or are able to pay me back some day, go for it, but I don’t expect or need it.”