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Many of the replies are saying something similar, so I apologize, as I am not trying to call you out, but to better understand; ask yourself why you need to know about the grandkid of someone you went to school with 30 years ago. So many of these things that we use to sell ourselves to hang on to social media tend to crumble under any honest scrutiny. This upsets people. I get it. I mentioned in another comment having dealt with a substance abuse problem in the past, and the same pattern emerged. I had a problem, but refused to recognize it, so I rationalized continuing down the same path by performing some mental gymnastics about why I needed to keep doing this thing. It was pretty eye-opening when I went through the exact same process during my time leaving Facebook a few years into my sobriety. We are social creatures and social connection is undoubtedly important to our mental health. But like all things, it tends to be better in moderation. In the case of FB, is hearing about a grandkid from a distant acquaintance a meaningful relationship? Conversely, do the likes we might get from distant acquaintances on our post add value or fulfillment to our lives in any meaningful way? I posit that when we engage with these unfulfilling interactions, we spread ourselves much too thin, causing stress and anxiety by drawing our energies away from relationships that are closer to home, in some cases maybe driving distance between them. Sure, I can only speak from my own experience, but I've yet to see anyone's life change for the worse when walking away from social media. Hence my concern about why people seem so desperate to stay, and make no mistake, from this perspective and the replies I generally see when this gets brought up, it's the same excuse-driven desperation I see in fellow alcoholics that resist recovery. |