[readme]

>I personally wouldn't hire someone who's primary purpose or staying with the company is a girl.

You've got your head up in the clouds man. You actually think you'll find an employee who is loyal to your company above all other things in the world, even his soulmate? I can't help but laugh at this attitude.

Take a look through human history and find me some literature about the epic struggle of a man to satisfy his boss, above all other things, including his family and wife.

I think it is a very honorable thing to be committed to a woman (or man, or robot) and if it were me doing the hiring I'd not discriminate against someone who's actually being honest about his priorities rather than blowing a plume of smoke up my arse.

[verisimilidude]

You've never been burned.

Hiring foreign employees is a lot different than hiring locals. Depending upon the country, sponsoring a visa can cost a lot of money and, more importantly, a lot of time. That lost time takes many forms. You'll have reams of paperwork. You may have interviews with immigration departments. You may need to find and/or furnish an apartment. You may need to spend weeks holding the new hire's hand after he arrives, teaching him how to deposit his checks in his new land, buy groceries, etc. And you may need to set your plan in motion months ahead of time to keep the organization running smoothly.

So when you invest all that time into bringing someone on board, and then they just quit shortly after arriving ("LOL broke up with gf seeyaltr"), it hurts. It hurts bad, for months, while you scramble to find someone else. And it's not the kind of mistake you make twice.

Without understanding exactly how it works in Denmark, I can nonetheless understand an employer's reluctance to subsidize a foreigner's love life.

[noob1]

>and if it were me doing the hiring

Ie. you are not

This is more about motivation and a financial commitment (for an employer), than love and honesty.

I'd rather hire someone that have a genuine interest in my company, customers, products and technology. Not very romantic, I know ;)

[jtheory]

It's not a binary decision; he should indeed find a company that honestly interests him, or he will be unhappy there (regardless of how happy his private life is; work takes up a large chunk of your waking hours!).

And that doesn't rule out explaining what brings him to the country.

[datalus]

You must be a sad person then :(