[einhverfr]

yeah, quantifying the costs says "It's fine, as long as you pay extra." If it's $10/hr extra, hey, that's an extra hour of day care for $10.....

Then when you remove the price you are sending another signal, which is "oh it used to cost money but now we offer this for free!

It's worth really thinking through the whole social signal thing first....

with the Red Cross, one option might have been a donation box right next to the donuts with a note saying what they had been asked to do and why.... and soliciting additional donations, to be used to provide donuts to the British soldiers, perhaps! That avoids changing the relationship.....