[bluGill]

> According to you

No, according to what happened in that instance. If this was normal in the culture of that family someone would have gone to the mic.

Do not confuse my culture with the culture in question.

> I’d be surprised if such an opportunity wasn’t presented.

Which is a reflection on your culture.

> Except to call it odd

Again, odd in terms of that one particular culture.

> This was clearly a case of an open mic

A case of open mic in a cultural situation where an open mic was not supposed to happen.

[mulmen]

I guess we drew different conclusions. To me lack of optional participation doesn’t imply the offer was inappropriate. Calling this cultural requires a much narrower definition of culture than I would use.