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Eh. For children of less than stellar parents, a funeral is:

- A bad person gets celebrated in a way that is not aligned to your understanding

- A bunch of people who don't know about the less than stellar bits offering what feels like performative grief

- Others who enabled the less than stellar bits angry their applecart has been upset, looking to lash out at a scapegoat.

Obviously not everyone has this negative experience, but narcissism is in about 6.2-7.7% of the population; other "dark traits" are also around in a long tail. So it's not unreasonable to expect around 12-15%? of people risk a potential increase to trauma at an already complex time of their lives.