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by bilsbie 545 days ago
Thanks. Should you check in periodically when you don’t want anything too? That’s where I struggle most.
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Check in when you care to. No less frequently.

I've made a habit of just cold calling my friends because I thought of them. I'll usually end up talking to them for an hour or more, even if I had nothing I specifically wanted to talk to them about. Just "hey I was just thinking about you and thought it would be good to catch up, how've you been?" Something like that.

Unless you are a very close friend that kind of call would raise about 10 red flags for me.
Pre SMS / high connectivity this would have been common. Someone rings the house phone and that's your evening gone.
That's fine. If I care I care.