[marcus_holmes]

GenX here and I'm the same - I always hang up on an unknown caller, and consider calling someone without texting first to be rude.

I don't think it's a generation thing, I think it's that what we generally consider normal has changed, but that some people got left behind in the old normal.

[dcow]

It’s definitely not rude to call someone without asking first. If you don’t want to answer the call then don’t and if it’s important I’ll text or leave a voicemail.

[aydyn]

Actually, it is rude nowadays. You dont call a personal line if that person doesnt know your number. You send a text.

[dcow]

That’s completely different.

[marcus_holmes]

I don't know why that's completely different - that's the behaviour I was describing.

[dcow]

“if that person doesnt know your number“

I’m saying that if two people have each other in their contacts lists and are on friendly terms, it’s not rude to call them if you need to talk to them.

Maybe I misunderstood, though. Sounds like you were talking about cold calling someone you don’t know. I agree that’s rude if the person is not expecting random inbound calls or isn’t in a professional context were there’s an expectation of receiving a call, and has been for generations.

[marcus_holmes]

Yeah, it's subtle. There are friends I can call out of the blue no problem, and others that I definitely need to text first. Generally determined by how well I know them, or in what context I met them. If it's someone I haven't called before, I'd consider it rude to just call them without texting first.

And, obviously, in a work/professional/commercial setting it's always OK to call if they've given you their number. It feels weird, but it's OK.

[exploderate]

> I don't think it's a generation thing, I think it's that what we generally consider normal has changed, but that some people got left behind in the old normal.

Isn't that the definition of a "generational thing"?

Now I have to think every time, is this someone I have to text first? Or do they consider texting then calling redundant? Anyhow, I think both are important communication techniques, adults should be able to do remote direct verbal and async written.

[ghaff]

I take "generational" to mean different behavior patterns in different current generations. Of course, behaviors and norms can also change for most people over time.

[marcus_holmes]

yes, this.

[pasc1878]

This will cause problems with many things.

Delivery Drivers/taxis use their own phones to tell you if their arrival times will change.

Medical calls can come from personal phones.

[DirkH]

Delivery drivers/taxis just text me when calling fails. The upsides far outweigh the downsides of blocking all calls not in my contacts. Humans and institutions adapt to new normals. Some just slower than others.

[pasc1878]

Mine don't they just phone.

[tokai]

Will cause? We are a lot of people doing that right now, and its working fine,

[pasc1878]

Not for me - I have just had to turn the block off.