[kristofferR]

But this wasn't about trying to help someone to be better, it was to help them avoid facing consequences for being bad, like advising a wife beater about concealer options for his wife (overly dramatic example, I know).

"You should stop doing dumb/illegal stuff, it might impact you" is very different advice than "You should stop talking about the dumb/illegal stuff you do, they may stop you".

[chris_wot]

It was probably an error in judgement for me to have advised the man to stop talking.

[whycome]

Or judgment even

[adrienne]

Both spellings are considered correct, although i personally prefer 'judgment'.

[chris_wot]

Tell me you are from the U.S. without telling me you are from the U.S..