[flpm]

One thing that I wish I knew was the conflict between the parent short-term vs long-term benefits.

Imagine there is a big meltdown because the child wants a snack. The parents are exhausted and you just need it to stop. You will have a strong interest in finding a quick short-term solution (ie. give the kid a snack) because it will produce immediate benefit (end the meltdown). But in the long term that may have side effects (e.g. the kid will expect snack at any time they want).

The long-term goal (eating schedule) has a high short term cost (meltdown will go longer and be harder) but often ends up paying off in a big way over time.

I wish I had paid more attention to that, but I don't want to be too hard on my old exhausted self :)