[jasmes]

Honestly man... just go with AWS+Cloudflare. Get a .com TLD from Route53 (the AWS domain name management experience is actually really good) optionally put it behind Cloudflare, and set up Fastmail.

I really wouldn't worry about having your domain pulled due to "fake abuse reports." If you follow the TOS and pay your bill you're fine. Amazon would look at a false abuse report, then look at your domain, see it is being used for a personal email server and toss out the report. As far as payment goes, just set up auto-billing.

Cloudflare is a necessary evil type of company but they specialize in countering malicious activity. They're good at it. They also offer a service that lets you use a domain name to forward to another email address (like a gmail) so if something happened to your Fastmail you could quickly set up a fallback to keep your domain receiving email.

These are US based companies with more money and power than a lot of countries. The internet is built on them.

They can be relied on for personal email.