[mberning]

I absolutely do not share my true feelings about fatherhood. They would not be viewed kindly or understood by most. Also, how I feel about things does not matter, at all. My obligation is the same regardless of how I feel. So I do my best to adjust my attitude and soldier on. This is just one of the many alienating and lonely aspects of fatherhood.

[ricksunny]

Thank you for sharing genuinely in face of societal pressures. Yes so the autosquelching of valid voices to the conversation like this are part of what keep are from seriously considering taking that big, and especially irreversible, life step.

It's like, in this day and age where anything and everything is said by somebody, we can detect, however subconsciously, an artificial absence of expressing a position expected to exist. So, societal pressure (per the comment) in this case evidently.

[munksbeer]

> This is just one of the many alienating and lonely aspects of fatherhood.

Yes, agreed. I never share my feelings in real life for the same reason. And it is very lonely. I did therapy for six months which helped. I was in a very dark place at one point.