[dgfitz]

Handle checks out.

When the mother breastfeeds, and dad just fills in around the cracks without directly “providing care” beyond holding the kiddo and changing diapers, how can they be judged for feeling aloof? When are they bonding?

You should consider softening your tone, being a dad is fucking hard.

[The_Colonel]

> When are they bonding?

All that time in between the breastfeeding? Somehow, this question does not compute for me (as a father of a breast-fed 8-month-old baby).

[dgfitz]

All that time, huh?

First kid?

[cbruns]

I have a child who is about to turn three who was breastfed. The notion of being aloof until now is unfathomable to me.

[The_Colonel]

Yes, the baby is in fact not feeding most of the time. You can easily find several hours a day during which you can bond with the baby, I'm pretty sure your wife is going to be supportive in this effort.

(It's our second kid)