| I totally get that hiding things from partners is a not uncommon thing. Speaking as someone who has lived with my wife for over 10 years and where we can each access each other’s phones (for reasons of administrative convenience), neither of us have ever “snooped” on each other. So when I hear of people taking advantage of features to hide chats from their partner it makes me wonder about the psychological health of either the relationship, one, or both of the partners. There are absolutely psychologically unhealthy controlling partners who “snoop” on their partners unreasonably dictating what is and isn’t allowed. And at the same time there are also unfaithful partners who are having the kind of conversations with other people that they really shouldn’t when they’re in a committed relationship. Only other reason I can think to hide chats are risqué group chats with friends posting arguably inappropriate content, but again, if your partner is snooping on this and then getting controlling, that’s not really healthy. Finally, I will admit I sometimes use incognito mode on my web browser at times (but never for conversations), so perhaps I’m a bit of a hypocrite. |
I am the exact opposite and would wonder about the psychological health of either the relationship or both of the partners if they have so intertwined themselves that they no longer feel the need to keep any aspect of their identities private from each other.
> Only other reason I can think to hide chats
The number of reasons are as numerous as there are relationships. I literally just finished sending my mother a message about a joint gift to my father in a group chat that I would not want my father to see, since it would spoil his Christmas present. I have several chat groups that contain information that I am legally not allowed to let my partner, or anyone else for that matter, see. And thats not even getting into all the different levels of confidentially that friends talking amongst friends reasonably might expect when sharing stories of their personal lives with each other.