Can’t help you with the Bay Area specifically, but I would look for smaller remote companies working in non-trendy fields. Stuff like B2B for plumbers, or WordPress plugins.
You can absolutely work in trendy fields and have a good work life balance. Trends don't require ridiculous loads. Working smart not longer. I work on quantum computing and you can easily do a 9-5 and still evolve the current. The issue is outlook, many believe hard work means hours, not skill or talent utilised in a good way.