[david-gpu]

> It seems odd to me that you are speaking as if your choices are not decisions you have to own the consequence of. You get married, you have kids, you made those choices but refuse to acknowledge that.

Where did I refuse to acknowledge that, exactly?

Our choices indeed have consequences. And it is popular to paint "moving abroad" as a universally positive experience, so I want to counterbalance that with information about some of the common real-world consequences that come with that choice. How is adding some information and nuance a problem?

[notyourwork]

You are blaming the place as the issue when the reality is your choice to get married and start a family is what holds you to a place. That would apply to lots of people regardless of where they live. Painting this is a con to moving abroad isn't really, to me, not obvious. I get married to someone with family ties in a geographically disparate place to me, I should not be surprised that we will have pulls to our family.

When was the choice to get married and have kids not an obvious choice with consequences. That happens when you get married and have kids in the city you grew up in all the same as it does if you find a partner abroad. It's not abroad that I read as your issue, its your marriage and family keeping you in a place. That's obvious.