[HansardExpert]

> Well-meaning people who remain idle end up sick in the heart and the head, and they often develop exquisite ideologies to excuse their inaction

or they get so used to being time and again that their offer of help is not needed or wanted that they just stop asking. :(

[InsideOutSanta]

As an outside observer, "they get so used to being time and again that their offer of help is not needed or wanted that they just stop asking" is indistinguishable from "they often develop exquisite ideologies to excuse their inaction."

As an aside, none of the things listed in the article require offering help.