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by jrjarrett 578 days ago
I’m just about a week later in my kidney donation than the author.

My husband was diagnosed with chronic kidney disease in late 2022 and it rapidly progressed to end-stage renal failure at the end of 2023. He’s been on dialysis since February.

It took quite a bit of semi-political hurdles to get him on the UNOS transplant list; once that happened, several people had volunteered to go thru the process to be a donor on his behalf.

I was the only one cleared; it turns out I was a match, but a better one could be found, so I went ahead and donated to an anonymous recipient. A few days after my donation, a match was found for him, and he receives his new kidney in a few weeks. That will make all this worth it for me.

My pain was much less than the author’s; it never got 9over a 3. I used one Oxy pill, and the rest of the time, Tylenol controls it. Still sore around the main laparoscopic site (1-2) still uncomfortable and can’t sleep on my left side 2 weeks out.

Definitely feeling the fatigue I was told to expect as my body adjusts to one kidney. I was told to plan for 6 weeks out of work, and I think I’m going to need most of that to rebuild stamina. I’ve been trying to walk as much as I can, weather and fatigue permitting, and I’ve had helpers to deal with the weight restrictions I’m under.

2 comments

The weight restriction is so annoying, especially as I've been trying to get into better shape/exercise more. I'm glad your donation went well & hope that your husband's surgery goes just as well.
I imagine taking 6 weeks off of work would be the hardest part of this for many people, unless they can get fully-paid medical leave. Presumably most people with decent middle-class jobs do get that.
My job has been amazing thru all this. The first words from my supervisor was “your family is important, take the time you need”.