[aguaviva]

Come now, those are very much adversarial.

The first statement (the one that began the engagement) obviously was not.

And ironically -- your misinterpretation of that statement (as adversarial when it clearly wasn't) is exactly what I was referring to in the second statement. By which was meant, in somewhat longer form: "It seems you're going out of your way to read adversarial intent when there simply isn't any in there."

[hackinthebochs]

Yes, we clearly live in different universes.

The only time someone says "absolutely no one thinks/says/does X" is when they are politely accusing someone of lying or bullshitting. So yes, very much adversarial. This should all just be so obvious.

>The tumor is benign

You left off the contextualizing clause which just changes the meaning of the sentence. "The tumor is benign/irrelevant to your continued ability to play the piano" has the same meaning with either phrasing.

[aguaviva]

The only time someone says "absolutely no one thinks/says/does X" is when they are politely accusing someone of lying or bullshitting.

No, they're saying they have reason to believe your characterization is inaccurate. And it's not in the least adversarial to do so. It's a normal and healthy part of everyday discourse, actually.

You should welcome it.