[masterphai]

It sounds like your friend is going through an incredibly challenging time, and you're doing the best you can in an incredibly difficult situation. Mental health breakdowns often result from prolonged stress, negative self-talk, and an overwhelming sense of being unable to cope with life's challenges. While everyone’s experience is unique, encouraging your friend—when appropriate—to be less reactive and more compassionate toward himself could be beneficial. Right now, though, the priority should be ensuring his safety and stability. It’s tough, but engaging professionals, as you’ve done, is the right move, even if it feels harsh or damages trust in the short term.

Long-term, one way to help might be encouraging him to rebuild a more positive and resilient self-image once he’s ready. Often, people in mental health crises are trapped in patterns of negative self-talk, which make manageable situations feel insurmountable. Helping him regain confidence in his ability to handle challenges—whether by facing fears or celebrating small victories—could gradually improve his outlook. For now, be firm yet compassionate, and don't carry the burden alone. Involve his family and the professionals in decision-making while reminding yourself you’re doing your best for a friend you clearly care deeply about.