[gsuuon]

I (too recently) realized "shoulda, coulda, woulda"'s are generally useless, and to focus on only "need, want"s. If it doesn't fit into these two categories then it's not important enough to think about.

[CastFX]

"Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall B. Rosenberg is a wonderful book (I picked up from HN) that explores this concept very well.

Definitely recommend a read