[eddd-ddde]

Everything in life needs a healthy amount of "fuck it" attitude.

The second I learnt this and started living by it my happiness shot up and my anxiety went down.

Who cares if you mess up, you have to stop living by your ideas of other people's ideas of you.

[_proofs]

i feel similarly and have had an adjacent experience with anxiety. the more i got to know myself, and the more i've accepted myself over the years, the more i've found myself self-advocating and validating my own existence (to myself) -- i do not need to prove or justify it to others, and i have been working on keeping this mantra alive.

a large part of this experience has been overcoming things by applying a healthy dose of, "fuck it -- this is for me." [1]

[1] obviously one can suggest there is an element of hedonism or selfishness inherent in the attitude, but i think we can appreciate framing it in the context of not using this attitude or mantra to justify being self-destructive, or harmful -- that is not the point. it's more about applying it in a way, that combats the mundane insecurities i've faced and experienced in a range of extremes, which otherwise get in the way of personal growth.

[nunez]

I agree, but many people in this world are raised by parents for whom "fuck it" is not an option. Escaping that kind of environment is very difficult.

[cloverich]

Its funny coming from the other side, where fuck it is all you know. Of course balance is the answer and change is hard. If i ever can id love to incorporate this into my hiring criteria as a kind of diversity, because as a fuck it person i find i pair quite well with those who cant do that; and likewise working at jobs with too many of either type the flaws (and mono culture) become so significant its hard to stomach.