[nuancebydefault]

It feels to me like you are comparing/applying hard science knowledge and techniques to psychologic knowledge and techniques, which is fine.

However my personal experience is that it mostly doesn't work out like that. Real human interactions with others and with things is so complex that it can't reliably be modeled that way. In reality it is more a combination of gut feeling and rational overthought and afterthought, in a never ending feedback loop.

[GistNoesis]

The more uncertainty you have in your model of the world, because it is so complex, the more conservative you should be.

I like how https://www.youtube.com/@TechIngredients approach complex problems and risks in a safe way.

Human interaction normal operating mode shouldn't be with one pushing and pulling your buttons to make you react. That's quite the definition of emotional manipulation, and not the basis of sane relations.

If you are operating on the edge on purpose, you are probably creating a toxic workplace for those around you.