[ted_dunning]

There's a lot of ways to rephrase this to be less insulting.

For instance,

"lots of people have started with the idea that they could sell at retail for only 3-4x parts cost and failed"

or

"I have had personal experience trying (and failing) to drive down retail cost of electronics below this rule of thumb"

This last has the advantage of making the advice more personal.

[tomcam]

> "I have had personal experience trying (and failing) to drive down retail cost of electronics below this rule of thumb"

Didn't have to make such a statement because I paid attention to people who knew what they were doing. If someone had been this "insulting" with my attempt to beat Craigslist, OTOH, I'd have saved $1.4 million of my own money. I'm happy to be "insulted" by people with more experience.

[Eisenstein]

Or you can just admit that you don't care about other people's feelings.

[tomcam]

You have an active imagination. I like that in a budding social critic of your skill level!

[Eisenstein]

Since you are asserting that you do care about how you impact others, I would like to point that you have acted contrary to that assertion in our conversation. In particular, your:

* use of dismissive sarcasm ("active imagination") to deflect legitimate concerns

* deliberate infantilizing tone ("budding social critic of your skill level")

* preemptive dismissal of differing viewpoints ("This comment will be downvoted but only by people who...")

* assumption of others' inexperience ("I assume you have never worked for...")

* defensive response claiming that you have the right to be insulting to others ("I'm happy to be "insulted" by people with more experience.")

If you honestly do care about how you come across in your communications and have a desire to use your interactions with others productively and not in a way which comes across as bullying, I am happy to work with you privately towards this goal. Is this something you would be interested in?

[tomcam]

Thanks kindly, but my dance card is full.