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"my manager (a woman!) still discriminated."

This is unsurprising. Any gender can discriminate. There have been multiple studies about some women being hard asses in the workplace so they don't get stereotyped as being a pushover, especially towards other women so they aren't seen as being sexist (even if that makes them more sexist).

I've had two managers indirectly hold paternity leave against me. Both were along the lines of not prorating the numbers during comparisons or saying that others contributed to a major initiative and I didn't have that opportunity when that initiative took place during my leave.

I'm actively looking internally and it's complete shit for the entire past year. Company-wide with over 20k employees and job postings at any given time are about 75-90. Stuff at my level and the level above me is rare. Like maybe 3-5 combined dev positions at any given time at those levels, but many of those already have shoe-ins. Others are on shitty teams or opened internally first so they can take someone external. I'm passively looking externally, but it's equally shitty there. I'm even more discouraged there since I have a disability and it seems that makes it extra hard to be externally hired.