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Maybe stop applying and start working at headhunters that look to place you even for temporary work? That's how I started back in 2010. I'd work for a place for a few months and if they liked me, I was given a position. When I worked for a temp place when I first started off, I worked like 7 jobs until I was offered a position. When I matured to headhunters, every position I was placed I was made full-time.

In my current job was through an agency where I was placed on a mandatory probation period where I'd need to have my contract renewed yearly, get hired or be terminated. The only thing that sucks is that during this period, you're an employee of the headhunters so none of the benefits of the company you're working at apply to you.

In regard to, "doesn't even care about me", that's reality. Though there are some companies and individuals that do care, the vast majority don't. Right now, CS is one of the few fields paying over 100k for some entry level positions AFAIK.

It sounds like you're a woman and I commend you for thinking about children. Personally, my recommendation is to stick it out, possibly invest in a bootcamp or follow thought leaders or tech tool creators and learn niche or cutting edge skills. Getting certifications can help as well. Degrees help you get past the gatekeepers and bootcamps help you get some attention. I've always seen degrees as proving you can stick with something. And I see bootcamps as proving you can stick with something specific that allows you to provide immediate value. But personally, I believe experience is the best teacher and the best way to get it is to take anything. I loved taking 2 months gigs. Fail hard, then try again. If you're eager to learn, you'll be surprised how much you can process in 2 months time and if you can treat every gig as an opportunity to learn something new, 2 years can bring a lot of experience.