[sandspar]

You're right, in a way. This kind of speaking style you use is very welcome in the "therapy" areas but would be considered passive aggressive or creepy in the "brotherhood" ones. Using "therapy speak" on people who have said they dislike it (like you're using with me) is generally considered an insult, since it implies that I'm not your equal. You're basically talking down to me in a circuitous way which makes it difficult for me to address it directly. Right now, to a naive outsider, you are being the polite one and I'm being the impolite one, when in truth it's the opposite.