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by nuancebydefault 608 days ago
Frankly I read the article and found no references to non-chosen aloneness other than 'When we don’t choose it, it’s isolation, Bowker says.'
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The article continues beyond that sentence!

> But you can be alone and not feel lonely, or you can be with others and feel lonely. “Loneliness really refers to perceived social inadequacy of relationships

> “One of the clearest findings on solitude is if it’s chosen for the value that it has, it’s going to be a more positive experience,” says Netta Weinstein, a professor of psychology at the University of Reading in England and a co-author of “Solitude: The Science and Power of Being Alone.” “If it’s forced on you, it’s going to be a less positive experience.”

In fact you are right but the text is a bit hard to interpret for me. The only thing I can get out of it “If it’s forced on you, it’s going to be a less positive experience.”

So if it is non-chosen solitude, it will be less positive than chosen solitude.

Now what is the answer to the downvoted question, i still don't know the answer and in fact i wonder as well.