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I scooped this idea from a book on relationships, but I don't remember which one: When we think about relationships and who is responsible for what, we may think something like this: In a two-person relationship, each person is responsible for 50% of maintaining the relationship. Together, this adds up to 100%. However, in this scenario, if one person is not able to live up to this, and only does 49%, and the other person is doing their share of 50%, the relationship maintenance is now at only 99% of the requirement, 1% short. So the solution to this vulnerability, is at least one (or, ideally, both) people to assume responsibility for all 100% of the relationship maintenance. This way, if you are aiming for 100%, and you fall short, you are still likely to end up with at least 100% or more. |