[Desafinado]

I think among programmers (introverts) a lot of them just don't want to leave their house. They're happy sitting at home, gaming, and drinking beer. Which might account for why the interest isn't always reciprocated.

If you're someone who actually likes to go out and do things, introverts make terrible friends. The extreme extroverts I know are always doing things together, because they want to.

In my life I eventually realized that I'm a thoughtful and sensitive person in a world that generally doesn't think of others. I'm the one who reaches out first more often because I'm genuinely interested in and curious about my friends.

I think the key in this situation is to recognize when the interest isn't reciprocated. If someone consistently disrespects you or pays no attention to you then you're barking up the wrong tree and need to move on.