[bilsbie]

On the other side of this issue I started doing a couple things.

When people invited me to do things I used to hedge and say I’ll get back to them later. And if I couldn’t make it I’d just say so: as if the date and time were the issue at hand. Never even thinking of suggesting an alternate.

One day I realized it’s a big deal for some people to want to initiate a friendship and make the first step.

So now I excitedly agree to whatever they suggest and if there’s a reason I can’t make it I let them know a day later and suggest a new time.

That way they associate it with something positive and it keeps the momentum going.