| My better half is smarter than me, so I go where they go :P But that aside, we live in a remote island and by family, that’s all we really need. I do wish there were more “hackerman” people I could find and hang with though. But it sounds like you have a good thing going with a tech background and a second skill (music) - why not finish the music school then have a second look at areas you can move to with more people/opportunity? One thing I do for difficult decisions is make a basic solutions matrix: rank your n priorities in decreasing number towards 1, and then rate “staying put” vs “moving” giving each a score of 0 or 1 for each priority. You can only assign 0 or 1 once per priority. Multiply each score by the priority weight and sum up the total. Whichever wins is your answer. You should also definitely add a “green grass bias” priority whose weighting is the negative version of the weighting your most important priority. Do this in excel etc or by hand. ——— Here’s a simple attempt (not tabular): Priority scores (etc): - Proximity to people (5) - Fulfilling (4) - Software-centricity (3) - Career opportunities (2) - Cost (1) - Green-grass bias (-5) ——- Staying Put (L) vs City (R) - 0 , 1 [proximity etc] - 1 , 0 [fulfilment etc] - 0 , 1 [software etc] - 0 , 1 [career etc] - 1 , 0 [cost etc] - 0 , 1 [bias] —— Total scores: - Staying put : +5 - City : +5 ————— Add more priorities, the deeper you go the better analysis you can make of the results. I’ve made up the priorities as examples, but you will have your own! Good luck |