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by hiAndrewQuinn 613 days ago
"Models" by Mark Manson was my bible in college, and I swear by it.

I especially swear by the summary at https://thingofthings.wordpress.com/2018/05/25/models-a-summ... , which I printed out and read basically every morning for a couple of months until it felt like a part of me. Changed my life, vastly for the better.

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This part really resonated with me:

> Someone rejected you for not wanting kids? Imagine five years from now when they’ve worn you down and you have to wake up six times a night to feed a child you never wanted.

Someone rejected me for his _perception_ that I do not want kids. In reality, this could have been a 15-minute conversation in which we'd find out we were on the same page. But the fact that he was unwilling to bring up that concern and instead worried about it in silence, culminating in a middle-of-the-night decision to end things, is in itself evidence that he was not an appropriate person to have kids with in the first place.

It still is really sad and unfortunate to "lose" something over what feels like a miscommunication, but ultimately a favor - because with the right person, the miscommunication would have been resolved.