[creer]

> never have this acquaintance seemingly think of me if I’m not directly asking them to hang

Many people don't think twice about friendships (of any kind). It's them.

You are not their top of the list attraction (of any kind). It's you.

But then too, when you are lucky enough to find someone who really clicks with you, do ask them to critique your approach. Sadly in many cultures including the US, this is just "not done". Not considered appropriate. Even when you ask. That's so sad. No wonder we are lonely.