[creer]

R.A.D.A.R. or structured communication. This is the idea that difficult and "we need to talk" kinds of topics should not be addressed when "hot" but when the circumstances are at their best; and that deliberate time with best circumstances should be created deliberately; and that some topics that rarely get time to be discussed should get time. This is a profound idea. ... and for me so far it has had minimal result. In part because of a partner weaponizing EVEN these deliberately perfect circumstances! Le sigh.

Trying to make convo circumstances and process perfect cannot solve mental issues or deeply ingrained habbits. Not quickly anyway, perhaps not at all. But for damn sure, it's thinking in the right direction!

I am currently wanting to apply this "even" to friendships but run into the issue that people "don't have time".