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by stale2002 615 days ago
> had to compromise your morals

Well, going back to the original hypothetical that was brought up about making friends with racists.

Befriending the racists can actually be a pretty effective way of getting the racists to stop assaulting you at school every day.

If that example is too extreme, you can go with "making friends with people to work together on homework so you can graduate".

And, you are what you pretend to be sometimes, and eventually that stuff can turn into real friendships.

I would never judge someone for doing that.

But you seem to think that making moral "compromises" must mean that one's life is free from burdens.

By all means, do what you need to do in your life.

But, it is extraordinarily insulting that you are calling people privileged for having the "luxury" of not being morally pure, and not being able to pick and choose perfect friends.

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It sounds like you find my outlook reprehensible.

This is a great example of how communication between people with different outlooks breaks down. We'll eventually get frustrated, call it quits, and never speak again. It's the exact pattern played out in miniature.

I'm curious, why did you ask a question of me if you didn't care about what my answer was?
The answer was repeating my example when I asked for one of your own. It felt like you didn't really care what my question was. Is there nothing that causes you to feel like you are compromising your morals?

The example you gave with having to make friends to get a good grade, I'm unsure how that relates to compromising your morals. Is that an experience you personally went through? What was that like for you?

> The example you gave with

I will repeat and rephase the answer which you may have misunderstood:

Circumstances, like someone preventing one's self from being assaulted every day by racists or racial supremacists, seems like a pretty clear cut example of someone who has less privilege.

I'm sorry you have to go through that. That sounds terrible to have to experience. If I may ask, how has that compromised your morals?
You'll have to ask the other people that you initially responded to many posts up about the exact details of the tradeoffs that they made or if they were even referencing themselves, or even if they had any specific situation in mind.

Maybe those other people were talking about a friend? Maybe they were just talking about things in general and had no specific situation in mind.

I was just giving some possible situations or hypotheticals that would justify their arguments that they made.

But I am glad you were able to basically agree with me here that their arguments were justified in certain circumstances.