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by sgu999 616 days ago
> Over the next couple of days, we sent condolence messages through our internship WhatsApp group chat or privately to her, or both. But here's the truly sad part—after those two days, it was business as usual.

I lost my father a couple years ago over the span of a day, too. I was on the receiving end of this. The sad reality is that the people I'd have expected the most from didn't even bother with a heartful message. And others revealed themselves as being the most empathetic and kind. It takes that experience to learn to spot the ones who actually deserve your friendship, I guess.

The other sad reality is that aside from the deeply selfish and unkind, we will all go through grief and have to deal with it. Being supportive of others when they do is crucial, but we don't have to feel as much pain as them to achieve that.