[gus_massa]

> But more than this I would come to learn that that I'd fallen into a trap of my own making.

I'd blame the medical doctor. In similar cases, they use misleading remarks and partial information to guide the patient in the path they prefer.

[justin_oaks]

It seems like the doctor has fallen victim to the politician's fallacy [0], summarized well on Wikipedia as

1. We must do something.

2. This is something.

3. Therefore, we must do this.

People seem to feel like there's merit in "trying something, anything" even if by trying something you may actively make the problem worse. We need to accept that we only have limited control. Bad things happen.

0. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Politician%27s_syllogism

[m463]

He also says they said they talked about things, but he might not remember.

[lucianbr]

It's funny to me how in tech (and business maybe?) "bias for action" is widely regarded as a good thing. It's the exact thing you are describing, but phrased differently and in a different context, everyone thinks it's great.

[marcosdumay]

That's because people in tech and business are overwhelmingly biased into inaction.