[didgeoridoo]

Good Lord. I hope your manager took an extremely long look in the mirror after that phone call.

When my 5 month old daughter got her heart transplant, my manager at Salesforce essentially said, "be with your family, call us when things settle down." I'd only been there for 3 months. I took 3 weeks to get her home from the hospital, set up our new routine, and mentally reset. Didn't get a single work-related Slack, text, or call during that time.

Might have just been a great manager, but I think the overall culture was a big factor too. Not sure if that's ever really something you can pick up on during the hiring process, though.

[imroot]

My manager was just following orders to protect his job: he has kids and a wife at home and I don’t blame him, but, he’s one of the few bosses that I don’t keep in communication with.

I hope your daughter is doing better and is adapting to a normal life post-transplant.

[brucedawson]

My employer (Google) gave me four weeks of grief leave. That plus four weeks of cobbled-together vacation and unpaid time off was invaluable for giving me the time to deal with logistics and bureaucracy and then have some healing time.

I am sure that it is difficult for smaller or less profitable companies to "do the right thing" even if they want to