[mlyle]

Not specific to dance here, but just replying to your general thesis:

The "just be yourself" advice is so hard, because it's what actually works, but it's also difficult to do when you care about the outcome.

And, of course, it has a prerequisite of a whole lot of work to make "yourself" into something worthwhile and interesting. Of course one would like a shortcut that still works if you've not done the prior coursework. ;)

[scotty79]

> The "just be yourself" advice is so hard, because it's what actually work

For attractive people or at least those whose attractiveness is not totally niche

[klyrs]

Of the dozens of men I work with, two are eligible bachelors. Both are above-average in their physical attractiveness. I promise you, that is not what women are looking for.

[scotty79]

Is it being yourself then?

[mlyle]

Nah. I'm not conventionally attractive. But still, figuring out how to better myself, and then just -relax- and be myself, was what built meaningful connections.