[RajT88]

Checking a box is not how real power and influence works. Yes, donations are a big one.

But also, those off-the-books social connections are another one (how big/common is this - we'll never know - that's the point). Making sure the college president knows who you are, and that you have 14 other family members who are alums. Oh look, my son is applying now too, just letting you know!