[recursive]

Which coroutine gets resumed by a rendering component is determined by reconciliation. Rendered components themselves have no identity aside from the reconciler's algorithm for equality.

For me, this is the root of the problem. Or one of them anyway.

Hooks are keyed by execution order, but also the reconciler's opinion about component identity, which you can only control indirectly. Fortunately it usually does what you want. Unfortunately it's not all the time.

I feel like I do understand hooks, but it's not from reading the docs, and it's not from using them. I know this is not typical but doing those things didn't seem to illuminate much to me. I would still find them doing things I didn't want that I couldn't explain. It was only after reading the source that I feel like I understand the model. And personally, it's not one I would use by choice. I can do it if I'm required by a team I'm on. But for me, there's a mental overhead for "thinking in react". It's not a natural set of constraints for me.