[defrost]

Not deleted just [flagged] [dead] and invisble with default user preferences.

You can always choose to enable your showdead: YES option in your preferences.

> seen my own comments being flagged, so I have some trust issues with thr moderators here.

That's almost always other users that [flag] your comments, often for being off topic, non serious, derogatory, in bad faith, etc in the opinion of other users .. if several users flag then it becomes marked as flagged and several more make it dead (numbers can vary and some users have the power granted to flag comments and see them go straight to dead).