[brailsafe]

Seems to me like such an act wouldn't be such a big deal if it wasn't usually surprising. I don't know what it would mean for it to be "on the cards".

Given the right circumstances, even an evidently unlikely scenario can become more plausible in the mind of the other, and you only ever have your own perspective to rely on in terms of what you think those scenarios or the predicate conditions are.

That doesn't mean it will happen or has happened or should be considered as a real possibility, but imo it does mean that if people could control for it, it wouldn't catch them off gaurd, which necessarily depends on it being unexpected.

And maybe any of those thoughts are indicative of being in a bad place relationship wise, it happens from time to time, it can be talked about, things aren't constant forever