[jawns]

It sounds like advice I've given to men serving as the Best Man and women serving as the Maid/Matron of Honor at a wedding. Your job isn't just ceremonial. It is to make sure that if anything unexpected comes up, you solve it in such a way that the newlyweds don't even know it happened.

[thwarted]

Then these roles should be more involved with the wedding planning process. Neither the best man nor the maid of honor have the budget nor the authority to make sure things go smoothly.