Many of the folks who get worked up about issues in history like this are likely themselves wrong, but in a different way, about what it “really was” back then.
We tend to have an overly romantic point of view of history. But to correct it, I think we should not add Game of Thrones type stuff (ultra violence and other grim stuff), but Monty Python’s Holy Grail: rub a little poop, stupidity, and selfishness on everything.