[fellowniusmonk]

Oddly enough I think a lot of abberant personality types can fit into group dynamics.

In fact go to any large, long running, stable, 3rd place and there will be some non violent psychopaths and narcissist in the community.

Serial killers usually won't kill people within their own community. The BTK killer was president of his church council.

Deserve really doesn't really enter into the equation. A serial killer might know a lot about webrtc or building operating systems and may be on this thread contributing niche info right now!

Society isn't a friend group. A co-working, community or church space isn't a friend group. One of my most rewarding experiences was in a space where >20% of people were bidirectionally incompatible for personal friendship.

This article isn't about the "whole self", it's actually the opposite in some ways, it's about how in a big world there is value in finding how a distinct and "flavourful" part of your interests has unexpected value.