[DigitallyFidget]

My goal of the cameras, which my neighbours know about, is not protecting me. It's protecting us.

I point cameras at their houses, at their doors & driveways from my property. Why? Because they can't install a camera on my house, but I can. Nobody has a problem. There's no distrust. There's cameras pointed right back at my home, too. We watch each other, because having more than one camera point of view creates a better security for all of us. I also have them watching at my door, specifically so I can see who is at the door, when mail gets delivered, or when packages get dropped off.

None of us have the delusion that we're all spying on each other. We're watching out for each other.

[soganess]

I'm not trying to play contrarian, but I agree with your parent.

If a neighbor wanted to install a camera pointed in the direction of my house and I could tell they were asking as a formality, I'd be nice about it. I'd be even nicer if we discussed my concerns before the final choice and they did not respect my wishes. It is their property and I'm not one to make a fuss, especially if there is no legal recourse.

However, in my head, I'd be furious and take it as a clear sign that they lack trust in the community and that they misunderstand what privacy means.

Being a good neighbor often means not rocking the boat, especially if you want to maintain healthy relationships. That isn't an endorsement of being passive, but an understanding that there are often bigger fish to fry. Banking their good will for a rainy day when I need coalitional support for something

[neltnerb]

In thinking a bit more about how to put this (I agree with you) --

My point was that cameras destroy trust.

You don't demonstrate trust in your child by putting a webcam in their bedroom and scanning their internet traffic. Maybe that's necessary for security in your mind, but it's not *trust*.

[GJim]

> I point cameras at their houses, at their doors & driveways from my property

Good god!

If a neighbour insisted on filming me and my family every time we left our front door, I'd either think they had a mental illness (paranoia) or were a bloody perv and in need of percussive attitude readjustment.